World Mental Health Day: It can happen to anyone

At the moment we are talking a lot about mental health, it is after all mental health week and to be sure it is a subject that needs to be addressed not for a week or a day but at all times. It is a start anyway and a mighty good one at that… What’s important to remember is that feeling blue to the point of questioning one’s place in the here and now, hearing voices, feeling paranoid, hyper anxious and irrational, do not happen to “special” people, chosen by fate/destiny/environment individuals or the neighbours down the street: it can […]

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The hated word: intimacy

INTIMACY is a frightening word for many people, it is however the only proven mean to have fulfilling relationships. Here are 3 tips to go by to increase your skills at intimacy: 1) Accept that to be intimate you have to be vulnerable and that is another word that tends to frighten people away so may be it is worthwhile explaining what it means to be vulnerable. I will start by stating what it does not mean which is that vulnerable is to be weak. In fact it is the opposite of being weak. To be vulnerable requires strength and resilience […]

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The Abandonment of the Child (within)

Of all the archetypes that C G Jung comprehensively explored, the archetype of The Child is probably the one least comprehended.  Easily confused  with the literal child unto whom we project our intense desire to re-acquaint ourselves to the characteristics of The Child energy forgetting in the process the “perverse derelictions” as James Hillman described it that are part and parcel of this major archetype. The 20th and 21st centuries may very well be recognised as the centuries of idealisation and sentimentalism of childhood and therefore of the child.  From child exploitation to child coddling we have swung the pendulum, desperately […]

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Bullying: Curse of the 21st century?

Before anything else I want to thank all of you who are reading my blog and leaving these wonderful comments.  Thank you and please keep on sharing your thoughts and your enthusiasm. As anybody ever heard of a labour of hate? Probably not in these words but I bet that many of you, if not all of you out there have experienced at least once in their lives being victimised by another.  Some call it “bullying”, french psychiatrist and writer Marie-France HIrigoyen calls it “Moral Stalking”,  another definition for it can be “Emotional and Psychological Torture”.  The fact is that […]

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Labour of Love

There is this theory out there that when we are in love the relationship that follows is going to sustain itself on the strength of those few months, or if we are lucky years, of intense, passionate and self-defining feelings. Not so, I am afraid… There is a major difference between being in love and loving another. We fall in love with another, or at least that is the consensus and it is wonderful no question about it. However, that does not change the fact that falling in love happens to us, we may be willing participants but in many […]

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